On any given day I unintentionally accept invitations for sex a minimum of 25 times. The sole act of making eye contact gives the men here in Mekelle the belief that I am welcoming them. To them I am not a Christ-loving girl who has a heart for this world but rather Brittany Spears, the hot blond with sexy moves and toys with the inner yearnings of men. I am here to do ministry and build relationships with the girls in hopes that they will not fall to become one of the 5,000 prostitutes in this small city. My job is solely focused on girls because of this understanding that the men have about us foreigners.
Besides just making eye contact, if I am seen talking one-on-one with any guys, it is automatically assumed that I am sleeping with that man. Just the other day I, Megan and Joel were walking to catch a taxi when down the street a man called out of his window to Joel, "Are both of them yours?" Joel, who has been here four months longer than us, just called back "no, they are friends." It was to my disbelief that someone actually believed that the white guy had the intention and ability to get two girls. Not only that, but also that much of what we have learned about the culture became apparent in this one instance.
I share this information with you not to make you think less of the men here in Mekelle, but more so to show you how the Western world can effect people here, and how large of a role sex plays here in the city. I don't know the men here in Mekelle, all I know is that there are a lot of them wherever we go. I have become a pro at avoiding eye contact even when it is difficult because everyone is looking at the "foringe" (foreigners) as they walk down the street. I also limit myself to interacting with any guys unless they are boys (under the age of 10). After this age it gets difficult to identify what is going on in their minds.
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